I met a guy at the bus stop. He took the same bus as I did to go to work each day and we would often sit together and chat. He was always a perfect gentleman. Each of us worked downtown and did the commute daily. It was not so strange that we worked in the same block so it was just a matter of time before we met in the food court. It was not too long before that day came around. He found me one day while I was eating lunch and asked if he could sit with me. So we sat together and had a pleasant lunch talking about innocuous things. I thought to my self what a great guy and not bad looking either. But as often is the case, looks can be deceiving.
He had just finalized his divorce and said that he was out of practice with dating. He had been with his wife a number of years and it just seemed so unnatural to be going out with someone else that he had been avoiding it. Since I was also divorced, it was easy to commiserate with him on this point. He seemed very surprised to find out that I to was divorced, he said that my ex must have been a moron to let me go. I said that it was nice of him to say that. “Well its true!” he said. “You're a great women and if I thought you would say yes I would ask you out”. So we ended up agreeing to go on a date together.
We had many mutual interests. This really helped to launch our relationship from passing fancy to very interested in a hurry.We took it slow which was fine by me because neither one of us wanted to rush into anything too soon. As we grew closer, it just seemed inevitable that the day would come when we wanted to take things to the next level. I guess it was only right for both of us to be a little nervous. In any event, we decided to make the trek up to his cottage the following weekend for a romantic getaway.
Well the day came and he drove down to my house to pick me up for our romantic weekend get away. As a matter of fact that’s exactly what I should have told him, “GET AWAY”, but like a love starved teenager I had fallen for a handsome face and a sad story. His idea of a cottage certainly did not match mine. This place needed a ton of work. It was not even safe to walk into! We ate a small supper and then had to sleep in a small tent that he had set up earlier. As I lay down, I discovered a large snake in my sleeping bag. I almost peed myself! I ran into the night screaming in fright. He followed me asking what he could do to make it up to me. I said that he should get a bigger tent, and that there was only one type of snake that I was not afraid of!
The next day, I quietly packed up and told him I do not think that we had a future together. I felt like a heel as he quietly drove me home, but I needed to look out for myself. I was concerned that his exaggeration of his cottage was just the tip of the iceberg. How could I trust him?
That night I cried my heart out as I told my best friend how disappointed I was. She consoled me, and told me some of her own dating nightmare stories. She was so funny that she totally turned my mood around. In the end, she told me about his site she had found that had lists of over a hundred high quality dating sites. I decided that I would give it a try.
I met a few very nice men over the next few months but there was no spark until he came along. I was worried because he seemed to perfect. He had all the qualities that I wanted for sure, and quite a few more that I considered just 'nice to haves'. We had interacted online for some time before he finally gave me his phone number. By this time I was starting to dispare that he did not like me or something. Talking to him seemed like deja vu! There was something familiar about his voice. I was sure that I had heard it before, but I could not place where. We had a great time talking over the next few weeks. He liked everything that I liked it seemed. And he was not faking it, because he could actually talk in depth about the things I was interested in. We did not always agree, but we sure had fun! And it was just so stimulating! I was so joyous I had someone who cared about me enough to give me that URL. It was the nicest thing that anyone had ever done for me, even though it did not seem like such a big deal at the time. |I was floating on air. I felt like a teenager again.|I was bouncing around like a teenager. Bubbling with enthusiasm and overjoyed. All my friends noticed and remarked on it!|During that time, I was so happy that all my friends kept commenting on it. What a joy he brought to my life!
About the only thing that was strange about our online relationship was that I had never seen his picture. He said that he was not photogenic and felt it would be best if I judged his looks by seeing him in person.The day finally came for me to meet my prince charming but something was not quite right when we spoke on the phone the night before. He said he was pretty sure that I would take a powder as soon as I saw him. I was starting to be concerned that the guy looked like Shrek or something! Although I vowed not to run away on him more than once, he still seemed to be concerned.
He suggested that instead of picking me up it would be better for me to meet him at his summer home. So he gave me the directions to his place. On the way, I experienced Deja Vu a few times. It was almost as if I knew what was around some of the bends before I got there. Then it hit me, the out house guy has a cottage up this way. “NO”( please God say it isn't so). But it was. He flagged me down a few hundred feet from where I was supposed to meet him. It was him alright! No wonder he had been concerned!
As I got out of the car, I walked to the trunk opened it and proceeded to look for my tire iron so I could clobber him. He caught my hands before I could do anything, told me to calm down and wait to see the rest of his surprise before I reacted. He led me down the road to where we had spent the night in a tent with the snake! I kept expecting to see snakes everywhere. But as we got to the site, I was flabbergasted! I was looking at the cutest summer cottage that I had ever seen.. He said he had never stopped loving me, but felt that he had to do something special to win me back.
He told me that he realized that he had handled the situation before pretty ham handedly. He said he had just purchased the lot, and had wanted me to see it before he started to do anything so that we could plan our cottage together. He wanted to surprise me, but realized that he should have told me what he was up to. After things when bad so fast, he did not see any reasonable way to salvage the mess. I felt like a complete ass for misjudging him so badly!
That was four years ago, and we are still going strong. We married a year later and life could not be any better for either of us.
Now technically, I did not meet this guy on that dating site really, but if I had not met him again anonymously, I would likely have never given him that second chance. Ouch! Thank God for that dating site! My best friend gave me that link to happiness, and I have been truly blessed since that happened. Everything good in my life dates back to that simple gesture on her part. She walks on water in my eyes. I am forever grateful to her!
If you got all the way to the end of this crazy story, then there is a good chance that you are looking for something more in your love life just like I was. The link below was the secret to my happiness. I sure hope it will be the secret to yours as well!
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